By Amy Vaniotis Intend (v): Have (a course of action) as one’s purpose or objective; plan Design or destine (someone or something) for a particular purpose or end Intended (n): […]
By Amy Vaniotis
Names matter. If they didn’t, parents wouldn’t pore over baby name books—and grandparents wouldn’t oh-so-subtly suggest that maybe Great Aunt Hildegard ought to be memorialized via baby’s middle name. The words we use have meaning and power, even if we don’t always stop to think about what they are.
So what does it mean to be an “intended” parent or “intended” family? In our daily life at Northwest Surrogacy Center, LCC, it’s a practical term, meaning the person or couple in a gestational surrogacy who requires the assistance of a surrogate to have a baby—the people who, by engaging the services of a surrogate and our agency, intend to become parents.
But that word, “intend,” has shades of meaning that tell a much richer story. For our intended families, more so than most people, becoming parents and having a baby is a deliberate, conscious choice. None of them get pregnant accidentally or on a whim. Many have spent years wishing, waiting, saving, and planning. They have a course of action, a purpose, and an objective to have children. Against the odds, they have destined themselves for parenthood.
As a writer, I particularly love the definition for the noun “intended” in this context— “The person one intends to marry.” On some level, choosing to have a baby isn’t all that different from choosing to marry. It’s a lifelong commitment to love and honor someone. It’s the inextricable binding of one life to another. It’s the culmination of a profound love, and the first step in a journey that will forever change and shape lives.
Those of us who work at Northwest Surrogacy Center are daily witness to the profound and loving intentions of the families we work with. We are honored to spend our days helping to make these intentions a reality—helping to fulfill a plan, a purpose, a destiny, a marriage of beings. Most of all, we are honored to be part of changing a name: to help intended parents become parents.
Visit our Intended Family Stories page to read about some of our intended families who fulfilled their destiny by becoming parents.