We want to share perspectives and experiences of NWSC surrogates so that you can learn about the women we work with.

To the intended families around the world who want to become parents through surrogacy — we know your mind and hearts are full of questions. Who are the women who choose to become surrogates? Why would they choose to help a family have a baby? What motivates them, drives them, how do they overcome challenges and disappointments, and what are their emotions/thought process throughout the journey?

Ask your questions!
We encourage our intended families to submit their questions to NWSC via the email address below. We will choose 3 questions per month and have a select group of surrogates, who come from a variety of backgrounds and experiences, answer them from their perspective. info@nwsurrogacycenter.com (Names will NOT be published or included with the questions sent along to the surrogates; names are for NWSC tracking only. )

S.T. / 27 yrs old / Lives in California / 2 children
Surrogacy: singleton baby for domestic gay couple in 2016
Stay at home mom during surrogacy

Why did you first become interested in surrogacy?
I first became a surrogate because in April of 2013 my brother came out as a gay man. Growing up and into our early adult years we had always talked about having kids of our own, so him coming out and knowing that he would like to have biological children, I knew that he was going to have to enlist the help of a surrogate when he and his partner were ready to start a family. Knowing that there were women out there that would help my own brother in such a way made me want to help others in every way that I could. Since pregnancy came naturally to me it only seemed fitting to help as a surrogate.

What would you say to potential IPs who may be nervous about surrogacy?
You have EVERY right to be nervous, surrogacy is a nerve-wracking experience for the intended parents AND surrogate alike, however to help ease your nerves communication is key. You will hear that A LOT in this process but it is true! Communicate with your surrogate, with your clinic, and with Northwest Surrogacy Center. Everyone has gathered to help YOU don’t be afraid to reach out!

How did you feel when you saw your IPs hold their baby for the first time?
Seeing my IP’s hold their daughter for the first time was such a magical, rewarding, humbling, and pure AMAZING feeling all wrapped into one! As an IP you can be removed from the “day to day” of pregnancy, but once my surrogate baby was born I could see a switch flip on, and both my IP’s immediately became parents and knowing the huge role I played in creating this family felt nothing short of a miracle.

A.J. / 34 yrs old / Lives in Oregon / 2 children
Surrogacy #1: Singleton baby for international heterosexual couple in 2017.
Surrogacy #2: Upcoming sibling journey for same family in 2018.
Worked fulltime during surrogacy.

Why did you first become interested in surrogacy?
I first became interested in surrogacy when, even before my own kids were born, I watched a dear friend struggle with her infertility and tried so desperately to have her own baby. I didn’t know much about how it all worked until several years later when my sister in law approached me and told me SHE was going to be a surrogate. I asked to know everything about it and knew right then that surrogacy was something I was passionate about pursuing.

What would you say to potential IPs who may be nervous about surrogacy?
I would tell IP’s that nerves are super normal, but ask any and every question to help give you the best and informed mind when traveling along your surrogacy journey!

How did you feel when you saw your IPs hold their baby for the first time?Man, that’s an easy question but hard to put those feelings into words. That moment was life changing for me. You plan for that moment from the start of your journey but when it actually happens, everything just comes full circle and it’s like the world just stops. You see this beautiful little family you had a part in creating and emotions run so high, it’s incredible. One of the best feelings in the world.

N.B. / 31 yrs old / Lives in Oregon / 2 children
Surrogacy: Singleton baby for domestic gay couple in DATE???
Worked fulltime during surrogacy.

Why did you first become interested in surrogacy?
I get asked this question A LOT; naturally people are curious as to why a woman would do this. When I was younger I was told by a number of doctors that conceiving my own children would require assistance and that crushed me. As I accepted that and decided to move forward in my life without kids (for the time) I found out who I really was – then I found out I was pregnant with my oldest daughter without ANY assistance; shocked would be an understatement for how I felt. 5 years after my oldest was born I then had my 2nd and last daughter. I remember hearing an ad for Northwest Surrogacy Center on the radio and did my research. I wasn’t sure if I’d qualify, but to be one of the 5% of women that get to help create a family is by far the biggest honor I have had.  I can make families; that is why I do this and I am proud!

What would you say to potential IPs who may be nervous about surrogacy?
I was, too! We all are, or were, at some point. I was nervous to do the first shot, to get the first blood draw for confirmation, to hear if we would try for a second and then third attempt. Northwest Surrogacy Center was there for me when I didn’t know what to ask or how things were going to go. Lean on your case manager. They are your support team, your bull dogs, and your friend – they have been through this before.

How did you feel when you saw your IPs hold their baby for the first time?
There are no words… I had been with my intended parents for almost two years by the time we delivered and to be able to see them hold their daughter was priceless. My husband and I both cried — it was that perfect of a moment. There was also some relief that we had “made it” to the finish line without any complications or scares — our pregnancy had been smooth and delivery was earlier than we expected and planned, but what little baby ever wants to work on a schedule?!

V.B. / 32 yrs old / Lives in Oregon / 2 children
Surrogacy 1: Twins for international gay couple in 2014.
Surrogacy 2: Singleton for international gay couple in 2016.

Why did you first become interested in surrogacy?
I had recently become a stay at home mom after my daughter was born, and I got into the habit of watching documentaries after my babies went to bed. One night I watched a documentary called “Little Man” and I watched this family struggle to have a family through surrogacy. I knew immediately that I needed to do that. I had great pregnancies and was healthy and active. I felt compelled in that moment to help someone else have a family.

What would you say to potential IPs who may be nervous about surrogacy? 
Even before I was a surrogate I completely understood how nerve wracking this journey would be to intended parents. It’s a huge responsibility to make someone’s family complete and I was so honored to be trusted with helping them in this journey. Open communication and really making my IP’s a priority really calmed all of our nerves. Getting to know each other completely was key to a successful journey for us. Both sets of my IPs really liked to Skype with my entire family. It helped them get to know all of us and see how much we all cared about them and making them parents of a healthy baby.

How did you feel when you saw your IPs hold their baby for the first time?
Every time I think about the moment I handed the babies over to their parents I get a little emotional. It was the moment we had all been waiting for. The look on their faces as they held their sweet, much anticipated children was so moving. I have never seen anything like it in my life. After my first journey, the dads held their girls so lovingly for the first time I knew I had to be a surrogate again. It was like giving someone the most anticipated present. Watching them touch their little faces and give them kisses all over still makes me happy. They still look at them the same way, with so much love. I am the lucky one in this journey.

M.P. / 37 yrs old / Lives in Oregon / 3 children
Surrogacy #1: Twins for an international gay couple in 2015.
Surrogacy #2: Singleton for a domestic gay couple in 2017.

Why did you first become interested in surrogacy?
Shortly after my first was born, a friend was looking into egg donation. In our research, I saw an ad for surrogacy. “I can do that,” I thought. I had a great pregnancy with an easy labor and delivery. I knew I wasn’t done with my own family, so put it off for a while. A few months after my third was born, my husband and I knew our family was complete. But I wasn’t done being pregnant—I love being pregnant—so I started researching surrogacy again. As much as they drive me crazy, I can’t imagine my life without my kids. Being able to help someone build their family, while getting to do something I love and help my own family financially, is an honor. My children have grown so much from the experience as well.  Their concept of family has expanded, and I’ve been able to show them through example about giving where and how you can.

What would you say to potential IPs who may be nervous about surrogacy? 
Take your time to research what is best for you. There are lots of resources and connections.  Talk to other people who have gone through the experience and listen to their counsel. Surrogacy is not something to be taken lightly.  It takes time and patience and trust—there’s a reason it’s called a journey! But, in the end it is an amazing way to build your family.  The women I’ve met who are surrogates are some of the most caring and wonderful women I’ve ever known and are honored to be your child’s first babysitter.

How did you feel when you saw your IPs hold their baby for the first time? 
My heart just melted, and it still does every time I get a picture. Unfortunately, my IPs were not present for the birth and the twins were in the NICU when their dads arrived. But seeing their faces and watching them with their babies made every shot and vomit and ache and pain along the way worth it.  Even more so, though, was when I got to visit them at their home in Israel. Not only did I help them become parents, I helped make an aunt and cousins and grandparents. Those family connections are so amazing.  It was fantastic to see the amount of love surrounding the twins and how much joy they added to the rest of the family, and really enhanced the whole experience for me.   

J.N. / 29 yrs old / Lives in Colorado / 1 child
Surrogacy: Twins for international gay couple in 2017.
Worked fulltime during surrogacy.

Why did you first become interested in surrogacy?
I have friends who cannot have kids. I wanted to help someone have a family who’d always dreamt of having one but couldn’t physically have one, whether if it was for health/medical reasons or simply because of who they love. I am a loving, caring person who loves helping anyone in any way possible. When surrogacy crossed my path, I was more than happy to learn about the process and was eager to get started.

What would you say to potential IPs who may be nervous about surrogacy?
Everyone in this process is nervous in more ways than one. Be open with your decisions and suggestions. Put everything on the table and come to an understanding that suits everyone involved. Establishing a relationship with your soon-to-be-surrogate helps ease tensions between everyone. Communication in this process plays a big role. Updates on both ends are great to hear, even if you have the agency involved. Be as involved as you can. I have found that the app WhatsApp helped a lot with international IPs so you can communicate a daily basis.

How did you feel when you saw your IPs hold their baby for the first time?
It was warm feelings of joy, love, excitement –  and it was emotional. Too many feelings to name. I looked at them and saw their faces light up as they touched, held and smiled at their babies for the first time. I thought to myself, “I am the reason they are this happy.” The family they wanted is complete because of the opportunity they gave me and my dedication and commitment. To see so much love in their eyes for the babies they’d just met made me want to cry. Tears of joy, of course!

E.H. / 30 yrs old / Lives in Oregon / 2 children
Surrogacy #1: Singleton for international gay couple in 2016.
Surrogacy #2: Beginning sibling journey for same family; expected delivery in 2018.
Works fulltime.

Why was I first interested in surrogacy?
After the birth of my daughter I felt so much joy. I really wanted to share that joy with everyone. I had researched surrogacy a little bit but I was still unsure. Then I had my son and the joyous feeling came back even stronger. I knew I needed to help a family that couldn’t get pregnant on their own. I wanted another family to feel the way I felt when I first met my children.

What would I say to potential IPs who may be nervous about surrogacy?
It can definitely be a bumpy road but in the end, it’s all worth it. My journey with my intended parents was so amazing. The journey was very long but the moment they held their baby girl for the first time made me feel that joyous feeling all over again. I accomplished what I wanted —  to help start a family. We didn’t give up even though there were a few hard times. Together we got through each obstacle and overcame them all.

People ask me would I do it all again? Yes! And actually, I’m currently on bed rest typing this because I just did another embryo transfer for the same family.

How did I feel when I saw my IPs hold their baby for the first time?
Joy-Love-Amazed-Excited-Wonderful. So many emotions at once. I knew from that moment on that their lives would never be the same again. They could love this baby the way I love my children. That feeling of emptiness that they had before the baby could finally be filled. I felt so much happiness that I could have exploded happy hearts all around the hospital.

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