After our second child was born we—well, mostly my husband!—decided we were done having kids. But I didn’t want that to be my last time being pregnant. I had known people that had trouble conceiving, and helping someone like that was something I’ve always wanted to do. My husband was kind of skeptical at first because I’m a pretty emotional person and he wasn’t sure that I would be able to handle being a surrogate. But I told him it would be totally different because the baby wouldn’t be mine. And we just kind of went from there.
I’m pretty sure Northwest Surrogacy Center was the first agency I looked at. I just got a really, really good vibe from them. And it was a really good experience—I don’t think it could have gone any better. Sandy really knows her stuff, and she also seems to genuinely care about and know all of the families and surrogates. Through the whole process she always wanted to make sure that I was okay and was getting enough help, that my kids were okay with everything, that I was getting everything I needed.
Once I found Northwest Surrogacy Center things went kind of fast. It only took a few months before we had an interview, and we completely hit it off with the couple. I knew I wanted to actually have a relationship with the intended parents, and we ended up wanting all the same things. We all wanted to keep in contact after and stay connected. They were amazing the whole time.
The first implantation didn’t take, which was pretty devastating. I guess because it was so easy for me to get pregnant I just assumed it would be easy this time too. But we moved forward and tried again and the next time it worked. I got pregnant with twin girls. The whole pregnancy went totally fine. Plus, having the extra money helped me transition to staying at home with my kids.
The intended parents came to town for pretty much every appointment. If the intended father couldn’t make it because he was working, we would have him on speakerphone in the doctor’s office so he could hear the babies’ heartbeat. I took belly shots every two weeks for them, and we talked a lot on the phone. I had complications on the day I gave birth and it all happened kind of suddenly, so they actually missed the birth by about an hour. But the hospital had amazing staff—the charge nurse called the intended parents on her personal cell phone and had them on speaker so they could hear the babies cry for the first time, and sent them pictures from her phone. They got to see the babies while I was in recovery, and they stayed close by and were in the hospital with me the whole time I was there.
I didn’t even hold the babies until they were seven months old because they were in the NICU while I was there. When I went down to see them, it just felt like I was visiting my friends’ babies. But when the intended parents brought them to visit at seven months old, I held them in my lap and it was like they knew me somehow. They were really comfortable and one of them fell asleep right away, even though the intended mother said they’re not usually comfortable with strangers. She said, “They must know your voice.” That was pretty amazing.
My name is Kayla and I became a surrogate because I wanted to help a deserving couple that needed some help to complete their family. I can’t imagine my life without my children. I would have been devastated if I had learned that I was unable to conceive. My children are my life, and without them my life would feel incomplete. So my heart goes out to those who are unable to have children as easily as I did. After having my two sons I was sure that I did not want any more children of my own, but I wanted to experience again the excitement and joy of bringing another life into the world.
Through Northwest Surrogacy Center, I met a wonderful couple that was looking to expand their family. We got along well and had the same expectations for the pregnancy and for after the birth, so we decided to go for it! The couple was there for me through the entire process. From the screening, all the way through after the birth, I felt appreciated and very well taken care of by both the intended parents and Northwest Surrogacy Center. The pregnancy (like my others) was easy, and I felt more relaxed and excited for the couple as the birth grew nearer.
A few months ago, I gave birth to a healthy baby girl, and happily handed her over to her loving and excited parents. It was probably one of the most amazing and beautiful experiences of my life. Because I went into this experience knowing that the baby was not mine, genetically or legally, I did not feel any attachment to her. I was happy to take care of the baby while I carried her, but was eager to “give her back” to her parents when the time came.
Overall, I can’t say enough about how happy I was to be a surrogate! I consider it one of the most rewarding experiences in my life to help someone else complete their family. I wouldn’t have been able to do it without my loving and supportive family and friends, and the help and coordination of Northwest Surrogacy Center. Thank you everyone!
My husband and I were watching a TV show one day where a woman was a surrogate. I thought, I could do that! I could give someone a baby! We talked about being a surrogate for six to seven months before starting the process. We looked at two surrogacy agencies. When I called Northwest Surrogacy Center (NWSC) the feeling was more welcoming and accepting than the other location. And Sandy is just fabulous! Even though Sandy is there to help the intended parents, she plays a major role working with the surrogates and allowing both couples to feel comfortable amongst each other. She has an open-arms, “call me any time you need me” kind of attitude. Walking into NWSC the processes felt more natural than scientific. After the meeting with Sandy we signed up and literally a month later we were chosen by our intended parents.
When we first met the intended parents (Adam & Sharon) it was kind of awkward. It was our first time and we didn’t know what to expect. But once we started talking we just clicked. I had this feeling like, okay, I’m really comfortable with you. And I think our friendship really blossomed because they wanted this so much. My heart went out to Sharon because I couldn’t imagine not being able to carry my own child. I left the meeting knowing I wanted to help them. After the meeting my husband and I looked at each other and knew we really wanted to do this.
I wanted to help a family that sought to be involved in the process. Even though I was going to carry the baby, I was doing it for them, and I wanted them to have as much of the experience as possible. Adam and Sharon wanted to be involved one hundred percent of the way. It was really great because they were there foreverything. They said, “If you need ice cream, let me know! If you have any cravings, let me know!”
My favorite part of the experience was giving birth. The day I delivered everything went really well. I went into labor early in the morning and called the intended parents as I was heading to the hospital. Adam and Sharon were only minutes behind us. Having that connection and commitment from them and having them there through the whole process was more than I could have ever expected. Because whether or not a child is yours, when you’ve carried him nine months there’s still a connection there. When it came time to say to Adam and Sharon, okay, here’s the baby, go have your family, it was difficult. But I knew how much they wanted this baby. They showed me their love and gratitude all the way through the process. It made everything so much easier.
The first night when I was at back home, after the delivery, was a difficult night. I knew I wasn’t ready for another baby, but I also knew I could have had one. My head said, I did this for someone else, but my heart said something else. That night my husband sat with me, held me, and let me cry. Even though I had tried to prepare myself mentally, it was really hard at first.
After a few months I was ten times better and my life was back to normal. I’m going to nursing school, and the compensation allowed us to pay our bills without having to take out extra student loans. Adam, Sharon, and I have remained good friends. About a month after the baby was born we went over to their house and all took a family photo together. That was really awesome. Even though there’s no biological connection Adam and Sharon said, “You’re part of our family now.”
About eight years ago my coworker was having her fourth child, and she said, “These pregnancies are so easy, I might as well be a surrogate.” I didn’t know what a surrogate was and when she told me I thought it was really interesting. So I decided that if I had an easy pregnancy myself someday, maybe I would become a surrogate. When I got pregnant with my daughter I thought about it again. I had a really, really easy pregnancy. And when my baby was there, I thought, could I give this child to someone else? I thought, well, no, this one’s mine! But I thought I would be able to do it with someone else’s. So I decided to become a surrogate.
The intended parents and I didn’t really communicate a lot during or after the pregnancy. The intended mother is Japanese and pregnancy is a really private thing in Japan. I understood that they were giving me space because that’s what they would have done in Japan. And I didn’t want them to feel like they had to communicate with me or have me be a part of their lives forever just because of the surrogacy. I got a five-week picture of the twins, which was great. I’d be busy too, if I had newborn twins and a seven year old!
I always understood that the twins weren’t mine. They weren’t going to look like me. I know how much I enjoyed my own pregnancy and my own child being born, and I wouldn’t want to take that joy away from the intended parents by being attached to the babies. I cared about them – I was trying to eat right, and take vitamins, and take care of them as much as I could – but I understood in the long run that they were for somebody else. That they were going to a good home, and that they were going to have a happy life. When the babies were born I didn’t hold them at all, I just wanted to see them and see the family in the nursery afterwards. I didn’t have any regret or feeling of sadness. I just thought about how great it is when I look at my daughter and I see myself in her. It’s so great to give somebody that.