Alexis's Story
“I will never forget the grandpa crying when he learned his family would carry on and that the baby was a boy!”
I am on my second surrogacy, I can’t tell you enough about how rewarding it is! I first considered becoming a surrogate while visiting Disney World with my family. When I was there, I was overcome with pure joy for the memories we were creating with our three boys. It was like the joy you get at Christmas. It made my heart ache for those who truly want to have this experience but can’t due to health reasons. I have always been a giver by nature and when I heard the NWSC ad on the radio I thought, “This is an amazing gift!” I will be honest – my husband thought I was crazy but said he would come listen and support me, and he admitted he was very intrigued by the money. How things change! After our first meeting, he said, “This is truly the greatest gift that you can give.”
On my first surrogacy journey, we were matched with a nice couple who wanted a child. The first transfer did not take, which was emotionally hard on all of us. Thankfully, we were blessed and the second was successful. The journey was so much more rewarding than I could ever have imagined! From little things, like hearing the parents cry with joy when they found out I was pregnant, to the breathtaking ultrasound with the grandparents in the room. I will never forget the grandpa crying when he learned his family name would carry on and that the baby was a boy! There was not one dry eye in the room.
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Now I am on my second and final journey as surrogate. I felt so much happiness providing a baby to a wonderful family that I decided to do it again. The new family I’m working with feels like I have been best friends with them for 20 years. They are so kind and grateful for the chance to have a baby. It is going to be a great experience that will end in a friendship for a lifetime.
Of course, there are challenges in the process, like the shots and medications, and the strong feeling of not wanting to disappoint anyone, and even wondering if it would be difficult to say goodbye to the baby. But as the journey progressed, I was so eager for the family to meet their little one. The shots were hard; but like childbirth, you quickly forget the pain. By far the hardest problem I had was the aftermath of birthing. I did not have a baby to carry around to let people know why I was chubby! It looked like I hit the donut shop every day for a year. But my body did bounce back over time.
Many people asked me how my children (twins were 11 and youngest 8) handled the surrogacy. I told my children that it’s just like when we buy supplies or Christmas gifts for needy children – we are helping a family have a baby they can’t have on their own. I told my boys, “If I could never make these amazing memories with you, I would be heartbroken. We are allowing someone else to create happy memories and complete a hole in their hearts.” I have always believed in teaching my kids compassion for others and we are here on this earth to help one another, not to be self-consumed. What better way of showing this but by example of helping a family have a child!
The first time I did it to make a difference in the world. I wanted to show my children how to help others and that giving is a great thing. This time I am excited to give the gift of a child but I’m doing it for my family. We spent the first money on home improvements and a trip, but this time I am doing it for financial peace. We plan on paying off both our cars and student loans. This will free up $900 in our monthly bills! We will save that extra money and plan to travel more with our kids. It is allowing us to do more without hurting us financially, and paying off our debt will save us over $10,000 a year! So yes, my motives have slightly shifted for the second surrogacy but in the end a wonderful family will get the baby they so eagerly await!
To the potential surrogates reading this: I wish you the very best and I know that if you decide to do it, you will not be disappointed. You are giving the ultimate gift. There are so many great people out there that want a child but can’t do it without help. You were blessed with a body that can not only give you a family but could help build another!
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